tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6884940124197443145.post345131185881781566..comments2023-06-05T04:01:58.880-07:00Comments on Love, God, Diversity: Polyamoury, polygamy and polygynySRoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562903186813334380noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6884940124197443145.post-50869280161707140582013-03-29T19:22:21.595-07:002013-03-29T19:22:21.595-07:00I wrote a paper on polygamy among Mormons in the 1...I wrote a paper on polygamy among Mormons in the 19th century for school, and they use the "mistress" system as one of their major arguments for polygamy: they argued that men would naturally stray and that polygamy gave their multiple wives a dignity that the mistress system didn't.<br /><br />However, I refuse to accept that it is impossible for men not to stray. Most of them men in my family (with the exception of one great-uncle) have proved themselves either to be capable of being faithful to one women, or to be good enough at keeping affairs under wraps that no one in the family knew about it. I will admit that these are also all men that managed to stay married to their first wife their entire lives, so they were better at relationships than average.<br /><br />I'm not a Muslim (Christian actually), but I admire the exhortation in the Koran for men to -- if they took multiple wives -- to take widows and fatherless women as their wives in order to support them. However, I think that's only a good reason for polygamy if there are a lot more women than men in the community.<br /><br />-ChrisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6884940124197443145.post-37589227707275669892012-08-15T10:49:58.880-07:002012-08-15T10:49:58.880-07:00I fully understand the role of polygyny in Islam a...I fully understand the role of polygyny in Islam and its philantropic ideals as lived by Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). However, in the curent legal system in Canada and in the United States, it is not so much philantropic or as protective as one mihgt think. Instead, it puts some families at risk of legal pursuit, which I would have to argue is completely contrary to its original purpose.<br /><br />Furthermore, the current SOCIAL system in Canada and in tne United States would have the families at risk of social isolation and potentially bullied or blackmailed. These are considerations which MUST be taken. This article comes from a place of anger, where a muslim man married a second wife in a different country without first telling his first wife (a friend) about it. I believe there are well-intentioned men out there who may be able to take care emotionally, more importantly than financially, of more than one wife, but those are few and far between and, therefore, polygyny should not be considered an ideal.<br /><br />One should not forget that Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) was married to Khadija until her death and never had any other wives during their marriage. She was a business woman and he was, for all intent and purposes, his superior (as in employer). So any Muslim that come with arguments against women's rights in the sake of Islam, is full of it!Love God Diversityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11583873367936701890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6884940124197443145.post-33935881512054962522012-08-15T09:50:09.608-07:002012-08-15T09:50:09.608-07:00as-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-raḥmat Allāhi wa-barakatuhu,...as-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-raḥmat Allāhi wa-barakatuhu, sister!<br /><br />Unlike the Western "mistress" system where women are used for men's pleasure, Islamic polygyny is a philanthropic institution that actually benefits women by holding men accountable. It is also a sunnah of our beloved Messenger (Allah bless him and grant him peace), who married widows, slave girls and other women who needed support for themselves and their children.<br /><br />Men are responsible to provide nafaqah (housing, food and clothing) to their wives and to give them equal time.<br /><br />I totally agree that extremely few men have the ability to provide that quality of life to one special woman, let alone two or more.<br /><br />May Allah protect us all from jealousy and work to accommodate the needs of our beautiful ummah and all its families.<br /><br />I found some aspects of this talk to be beneficial:<br /><br />http://www.halaltube.com/khalid-yasin-advice-to-muslim-womenSonjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01113136601428581672noreply@blogger.com